The real trick to negotiating your scenes is to find the style that's comfortable for you & your partner, while giving you both the chance to share your honest desires & boundaries.Īnd if you ever need reminders of good negotiation questions to ask, my free workbook has you covered. So swipe through the graphics below for some real-life tips for how different kinksters do their negotiations - whether sending questions the week before or going through a phone checklist. But I also understand that sometimes you need something a bit more practical for in the moment, pre-scene, play negotiation. Limits can be hard or soft, but some examples of common limits include: Electroplay.
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You can also use a BDSM contract to negotiate what you will or won’t do. It can feel intimidating to present someone with a list like that right before playing or it may feel unnatural to be like "hey I know we're still pretty casual but can I send you this like 7 page document to fill out?" □ Listen, I firmly believe my Negotiation Guide is a crucial resource for all kinksters - new & old - and is the most important tool you can bring to your play. BDSM limits are boundaries of things you don’t like or won’t do. Is this what all kinksters really do? Do experienced doms & subs really pull out these long lists and go through them every time they play? So you've got my free Negotiation Guide & Workbook and you get why its so in-depth.but you're finding it kind of hard to implement in the moment of scene negotiation.